Many of you will say now really... how bad can it be? Perhaps you are making too much of it. Give it a chance...go with the flow...Don't judge a book by it's cover...and so on.

Trust me it can be very bad. Especially if you are vulnerable and just coming out of a major funk from being dumped. Your confidence is shot and you are holding out hope that maybe, just maybe, this one is not a freakshow!

And which is worse: the date doesn't know that she is completely and totally inept or doesn't care if she is? It is immaterial what the issue/s is/are that put you off...clothing, personality, attitude, background, employment status, manners, education, religion, politics, etc.

Many of us have had friends who wanted to date someone but unfortunately they have a "friend" who is visiting and oh by the way...do you have an available friend so that I don't leave him sitting here waiting for me?

So guess what? Unsuspecting you walks into the room and your friend already knows you don't have plans for the evening because silly you thought it was just a question to keep the conversation flowing not to qualify you as the date for the "friend". Before you know it you are being given the hard sell about doing a favor or a solid for your friend and being hustled into the bedroom to pick out your clothes for the night and then into the shower. All the while your friend is saying...well you don't have plans and it's time you get out and do something besides sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself. Come on...we'll have fun. It will be like old times. We haven't doubled in a long time.

So after much begging and pleading you give in and say what the heck? How bad can it be? If you only knew then what you would know when you opened the door and got your first glance...you would have run for cover. You would not have passed go...you would have gone directly to your room and locked yourself in and cranked up the stereo volume to drown out the cajoling, whining, pleading and begging...and yell through the door over the music to find some other patsy to go.

Why do we set ourselves up for this comedy of errors? There is a REASON the so-called friend does not have a date...and you are just about to walk into the Twilight Zone...

Have You Ever Been on a Doomed Date?

You know what I am talking about...that date that you will never forget...The one that has you banging your head against the wall saying over and over "What was I thinking?" The one a friend of a friend just had to be set up because she has a friend visiting and would you mind doing her a favor so she does not leave her friend alone or has to tag along as a threesome. The one that your mom sets up for you with her friend's son that they both know would just be ideal for both of you. Or how about the coworker that you thought was really cool only to find out that he is like Jekyl and Hyde outside of work. Perhaps you have been on a series of them (though I hope not). Welcome to my blog about doomed dates. .